In the modern world, couples in which the husband is younger than his wife in several years do not bother anyone. Often, the young guys choose women, who are as old as their mothers, as the life partner. Someone condemns lady, able to attract the attention of the young guy, and considers her behavior as immoral, and others admire the courage of the young man, who decided on the mixed-age marriage. According to statistics, these unions are mostly happier, stronger and more harmonious than marriages between peers.
And in fact…
It has long been accepted that for a creation of the family, family support and proper upbringing of the heirs the family head should be an adult man, able to become a support and protection for his families. His wife had to have good health for children born, force for care of them, her responsibilities were home maintenance and safety of the family hearth. That is why a husband had to be a few years older than his wife.
In modern times much has changed: women have become independent and self-sufficient, they’ve learned how to build a career and earn money, to support themselves in the proper form, to maintain youth and beauty. Ladies are passionate about self-development and rather ambitious, so the warmth of the family nest for a long time is not at the forefront. But at a certain age, woman, who has achieved a lot in life, dreams of peace, warmth and male affection. Many of them have a failed marriage and children behind. But if a woman is full of strength and energy, has a good health, a beautiful figure and youthful appearance, not burdened with the problems and feels much younger than the specified age in the passport, then she starts to get accustomed to men younger than she.
‘Cons’ of relations, if a man is younger than woman
The age difference may be different: from two or three years to a few decades. The first option is considered acceptable and does not cause the condemnation of society, but the run-up of age in 10-30 years is able to cause problems in the relationship.
The conflict of interests. Lady at 40-50 years wants to rest a little more, she tends to spend a lot of time with her lover in a cozy home nest. Young man craves entertainment; he wants to be in a noisy group of friends, to go hunting and fishing, to spend his leisure time interesting and useful. His priority is the freedom and ease. This behavior may cause the negative attitude of his wife and the conflict situation in the family: the spouse needs attention, and the partner is not willing to endure the pressure from her side.
Miscellaneous outlook. The woman, who is now 50 years old, has grown up in a different society, got a different background, education and experience. The young husband, who is only 30-35 years old, perceives the world in other way, has a completely different attitude and spiritual values of life. It is not so easy to achieve mutual understanding in a couple. For the first time lovers are ruled by the passion and people are not interested in such questions, but with the development of relations and the establishment of the family mentioned nuances cannot be overlooked.
Women’s sexual activity is not eternal, and eventually it will fade. There will come a time when her libido will come to naught, that is natural and inevitable. It is possible to extend the joy of sexual pleasures due to sports load, nutrition and medication, of which many has been developed. But do not get hung up in advance for the upcoming challenges. Meeting with a young lover, you should think positively, to enjoy positive emotions and enjoy sex.
The union of adult women and young men can give a crack, if the husband wants to become the father in the family, while his wife because of her age, social status, or the presence of children from a previous marriage, is against the birth of another child. Such differences can separate the lovers.
Lady, being in a relationship with a young man, is not immune from bouts of excessive suspicion, jealousy and betrayal. Near her partner there are a lot of young long-legged beauties, of the same age, with elastic breast and gentle face without wrinkles. And no matter how attentively the wife would watch, in the fight against young opponents, she loses. If she does not show wisdom, than some omissions occur, this feeling of jealousy becomes unbearable and able to bring to a deep depression, scandals and a breakup.
Lonely girlfriends of wife may flirt with the ‘boy’, trying to charm him. It is possible that one of them will succeed. Less preferred is the company of her husband’s friends, on the background of the young men a solid appearance of adult wife will be very eye-catching.
In uneven marriages in which the husband is younger than his companion, he often plays second fiddle, while the woman is the leader. She suppresses the husband by the authority, resulting in his reaction becomes furious rebellion or he ceases to be himself completely.
Near the prosperous women young men often play love because of wealth. Rich woman is at risk of becoming a victim of Alphonse, who only wants her money and a beautiful life at the expense of the others. The sensory and compassionate ladies, ready to sacrifice their wealth for the sake of man, are often caught in the net.
Over time, the young partner can transfer mother duties on his wife. He will come into the house where everything is ready, forget about the necessary assistance to the spouse and male housework. Family nest will become a haven for relaxation of the man who will use the result of woman’s work.
Often, negative public opinion about the uneven couples causes separation of lovers. Joyful woman saying, ‘My husband is younger than me’ causes the negative reaction of others, ‘pulled by young’, ‘will play enough and throw away’, ‘He is with you only for the sake of material gain’. Stereotypes can destroy the good beginnings of the couple. Partners cannot help but start to think about the truth of such statements. Lovers do not look for support even among relatives, because relatives often try to separate overripe bride and a minor groom.
The woman should take the role of ‘teacher’: she would have to help her husband with actions and advice, calm after the sharp ‘fall’ and failure, to invest in him her strength, nerves and finances. Not every woman is able to give so much in return for minuscule. Such relationships are close to the category of ‘mother-son’.
‘Pros’ of relations, when a woman is older than her chosen man
Besides the obvious ‘cons’ of relations, if a man is younger than women, there is also a number of ‘pros’.
The main advantage of the union of different ages is the wisdom and experience of women. Young rivals sometimes do not know how to behave with a man, and often make fatal errors. Adult lady knows how to behave in any situation, and in bed she knows exactly all his desires and can predict and more than fulfill the needs of the partner. Aged woman understands everything, she indulgent in little things and is responsible in matters.
Lady, in love with a handsome young man, is given full play to the brave exploits and new achievements. Some women over 40 discover the heavenly expanse, fascinated by previously seemed terrible skydiving. Others are engaged in diving, fitness, yoga, combat sports, and others change their external image, using a new style of clothing, hairstyle and hair color.
A woman in love with a man younger than her keenly watches her figure, diet, eliminates bad habits. Sometimes she is able to achieve such results, which the young girl can only dream about and silently envy. Her stimulus is to divert attention of the chosen man from the young beauties, make him like her more and match him.
From the realization that the man chose her to the young rivals, the lady increase self-esteem, she looks younger next to a young man in love.
Wife consciously strives to maintain a marriage. She takes care of her husband as a teenage son, sometimes allows him to indulge and ‘buck’, meaning that he is still young and hot.
Former marriage taught a woman to smooth out conflicts. She will not hysteria and arrange dismantling, and check the strength of relationships is not her hobby horse. Wife always tries to understand the young partner, support and forgive him.
Young men admit that their adult wives with age become unique and feminine, which is rare in the form of young girls. The years have taught a lot to a woman: she can easily organize the comfort in the house, the maintenance of order and cleanliness, the clothes is always washed and ironed, and the education of children and care for them is not a problem. She is able to do all that is necessary to man. The lack of such qualities in young competitors is often the cause of parting of peers couples.
There is a set of ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ in marriages in which the woman is older than the men. The strength of such marriages as well as marriages between peers depends on both of the lovers. If a couple is not able to work together to solve the problems, does not want to yield to each other, to understand and forgive, then the family can collapse like a house of cards.
If a man and a woman, having a great difference in age, are associated with sincere feelings, they are not afraid of any trouble, because the age is only numbers. And do not pay attention to stereotypes; the time will smooth out all the rough edges. Love one another and take from life as much as you can!